Finding Life's Meaning

What's my purpose in life? What's the meaning of my life?

Trying to make sense of what life is all about has formed the basis of many philosophers' work over the last few centuries. Today, more and more of us seem to be asking these questions, particularly in western society. Although it can be an intriguing and exciting journey to explore such 'big questions', trying to find the answers can also cause much anxiety, doubt, loneliness, depression and disillusionment.

Often we don't go around consciously asking ourselves about the meaning of life. But if you find it hard to relax, get the Sunday blues, feel depressed or anxious for no apparent reason, drink too much too often...then you may have a deeper, unconscious sense that your life doesn't have as much meaning as you want it to have.

Magic Wand Exercise

Imagine that a wizard or fairy has just given you a magic wand and you can make your life look exactly how you've dreamed of.

Allow yourself to daydream. What would your life look like? What would it feel like? What would you be doing each day? Most people go straight for things associated with material wealth, but dream beyond that. Imagine things that make your heart sing; that bring you joy and fulfilment.

How did you go? If you had no idea what your life would look like, you're not alone. If your daydream was a million miles from your current life, you're not alone either.

Why is it so hard to find the answers?

Despite centuries of searching for the ultimate answer to the 'meaning of life', nobody has come up with an answer that is universally acceptable. This is because a search for life's meaning is a very individual journey. We have to find our own answers. And yet we, as humans, like to know that we got it right and like to compare ourselves to those around us. Nearly all of us, to a greater or lesser extent, are hooked into what we 'should' be or do. Consequently, trying to find our own answers poses a significant discomfort for most of us.

There's also another dilemma. Even if we are comfortable enough to search for our unique, individual meaning or purpose, if there's no absolute answer then how do we know when we've got there? This is another cause of some of the anxiety and problems we face.

An existential approach

An existential approach to psychotherapy is focused on the concerns that stem from each individual's existence. It is an approach based on authenticity, intrigue, insights and intuition. Therapists who use an existential approach have a strong belief that each person is a unique individual, and are fascinated and dedicated to understanding each person's unique life story.

My approach to therapy complements your search for life's meaning.

Whether you're right at the start of this journey, or are just looking for more clarity, please book an appointment today with Victoria.